So, I just got a wonderful Facebook message (below in blue) from an ex-employee and it made me tear up in such a bittersweet way… after all this time, to get such a sweet email… It made my heart swell with gratitude and ache with desire to be in the working world again ~ interacting with people, mentoring, doing what I love.
Then it dawned on me that I have an old work email address and I had set it so employees’ emails filtered into a separate folder. I checked and found the other messages below from over the past year (names etc. edited out to protect privacy). I am blown away. I showed these to my husband and we both got weepy. I cared so deeply about every single person, in every restaurant. I wanted the General Managers to succeed and love their jobs. I miss the incredible high of opening a restaurant as part of a team and having those bonds that come from sharing 70-hour work weeks to get the job done. I miss the late-night, blurry-eyed laughter, the constant learning, the opportunity to train and teach. I miss contributing to the world! I wanted to share with you all how great some of the people were at my old company and how warm and fuzzy (and sniffily) I am feeling right now. 🙂
“Heeey!! I was JUST talking about you last night… I was asking B. how you were ?? I was also telling B. that I name drop your name a lot at work!! Haha. I’m always like, “if [Elizabeth Milo] was here, this crap wouldn’t be happening!!” Haha. You really were our rock!!! … I just never really had the chance to tell you how much of a positive influence you were to me:) I am forever grateful that I had the opportunity to have you as a mentor, friend, boss. So, thank you!!! Hope all is wonderful in your world:))”
“How are you?? … I’m not sure why I don’t see you around anymore but I hope all is well with you! Miss you lots. Again, hope all is well. Cheers! :)”
“Just doing invoices and you popped into my head. Weird, huh. I still measure myself to the “[Elizabeth],” standard you set. Thank you for keeping the bar high. I think of you often and appreciate all that you did to put me in a position to succeed. I know there was a time when you may have been my only fan and you stood tall for me despite your itty bitty self. It will always be appreciated. I hope to see that smiley face soon. Holler if you ever need me for anything. I owe you.”
“Hello my queen, … Really miss you and think of you often, hoping your energy is coming back to you. Some really delicious food by Chef P. just might help with some of that. Love you lots!”
“I am so glad that I was able to work with you as my boss for so long, I feel privileged that I got more time with you than most of the other GM’s 🙂 You are honestly one of the main if not the biggest reason I have stayed with this company for so long. I think it’s really important to have a boss that you can trust, get along with and who really knows your position so that they can guide you in the right direction and you always did that for me. I really appreciated that you had a bond with my staff as well as myself and I know it meant a lot to them as well. I know that you have gone to bat for me a time or two and you have always given me honest feedback. There are 3 bosses that have really truly made an impact on me in my working career of 15 years and you are one of them. I can’t say [things are] the same since you took sabbatical… I do, however, feel confident in my tenure and the skills that I have learned along the way. Thank you for being such an awesome boss, resource, confidant and friend. You definitely had a major hand in shaping this company and I thank you for believing in me…. I hope that you are able to relax and have some real “me time”, you deserve it.”
Love the Bugs Bunny moving heart! What a happy find that email folder must have been! Reminds me of that scene in Sex and the City Movie where Carrie remembers the folder she’d set up for all of Mr Big’s emails to go into without her having to deal with them (ignore me if you’re not a SATC fan!). A happy discovery!
I love SATC, so your comment made me smile. Thanks for that!
Super discovery, people can still amaze, people are great 🙂 you should frame the messages and place them around your living space.. nice to look at on a winters day! xx
Ha! That’s a lovely idea. I have to say 2 of these messages were instigated because they needed access to a doc I had created, but I don’t care the reason, I’m still so touched by the words. 🙂
“I miss contributing to the world!”
This really hit home! Missing being able to work kills me more than anything. Because if I could work, that means I could drive, shop, and maybe leave the house!
I am really glad your old colleagues reached out to you 🙂
That is the hardest thing, I think ~ more than losing independence, losing the feeling that you are making a difference in the world, that you are having an impact, making things better, that you have a purpose! I would take that over driving and shopping any day. Thanks for the comment, Christine, it makes me happy to see you out and about in our blog world. 🙂
This is amazing! I know how much you needed to discover something like this and it makes me so happy that you did!
Exactly how I felt when I was hearing stories from my cub pack about how they all missed me and wanted me back, that I do make a difference in the children’s life’s. I took a year out at the beginning of this current flare but returned last September, the parents know how hard it can be for me but every now and again I find a text message or email of encouragement from them. 😀